Proposing Marriage? Make An Offer She Can’t Refuse

I have a romantic story to tell. Which, I hope, will leave you with a warm fuzzy feeling. Waaaay way back in the late summer of 2009, I proposed to my bride to be. Of course, there was always the possibility of a refusal, so I reached deep inside to my Italian heritage. Which means, inspired by Don Corleone from ‘The Godfather,’ I made her an offer she couldn’t refuse😊. In fact, I think I made an offer that no woman could refuse.

I had written a two-page poem for a proposal, but would that be enough? I needed a proper setting and some way to show off my culinary skills. The ring was still hidden in my luggage.

We planned a day trip to Blenheim Palace in Oxford Shire. Unbeknownst to her, but knownst* to me, she had provided me with the perfect setting for the scene. I put together a champagne picnic basket for the trip. Chicken salad sandwiches, Ham and cheese sandwiches, pasta salad, and other assorted goodies. She thought it was lunch, but I had the brimming confidence that within mere hours we would be celebrating our engagement. Her desire for me to experience the natural majesty of Blenheim Palace provided the right setting.


*Ruth and I are rabid fans of anything by Mel Brooks. ‘Knownst’ is from the opening of “Spaceballs” and a major scene from “History of the World” was filmed at Blenheim Place.


After parking, we strolled through the spacious secret gardens. A vast network of dirt paths, replete with statues, fountains, and a stunning variety of trees, flowers, and shrubs. I suggested she sit on a bench for a photo, but instead, I knelt in front of her and recited a lengthy proposal in iambic pentameter. After reciting the last poetic line, I pulled the ring from my pocket and held it in plain view. This was the moment. Would she accept the offer? She extended her hand with spread fingers. Halleluiah! I slipped diamond ring on her finger.


We “met” playing Lord of the Rings Online. Isn’t it fitting that I presented a ring to her in “The Shire?” After all, Oxford Shire was the influence for Tolkien when he created the Shire as a homeland for his Hobbitses.


Later we basked in each other’s glow on the great lawn as we noshed on the contents of the basket and popped open the champagne. After a long walk over bridges and around a small lake we returned to her home and called our moms.

Well Ladies, how did I do?

Tell me about your proposal

Ernesto San Giacomo is the author of “Storm of Divine Light

R.I.P. Gene Wilder

A long time ago I saw Willy Wonka and the Chocolate Factory, probably its first airing on television.  Just a few years later, I saw The Producers. Both of these iconic American comedies starred Gene Wilder. Of course Gene went on to do two more wonderful films with Mel Brooks like Blazing Saddles and Young Frankenstein, in the 1970’s. These films are on My Favorite Movies of the 1970’s post.

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The 1970’s saw his first on-screen partnership with Richard Pryor in Silver Streak. Later, in the 1980’s they would join forces again for Stir Crazy and See No Evil, Hear No Evil. Wilder also partnered with his wife Gilda Radner for a few films.

Thank you Gene, for the many years of laughter you’ve given to all of us. Comedy that is so timeless, that I find myself laughing at the same jokes over and over.

I think I’ll snuggle on the couch with my wife tonight and watch Young Frankenstein. What are you going to watch to honor Gene Wilder’s memory?

My Favorite Films of the 1970’s

 

I don’t care if some of these films did not win a string of Academy Awards or even if they were nominated. They are the ones that I keep going back to when I want to relax as if I’m seeing an old friend. All films not produced in the USA are marked.

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I Go to the Movies Alone… by Betsssssy used under CC License

50. The Last Picture Show – d. Peter Bogdonovich

49. Black & White in Color – d. Jean-Jacques Annaud (Ivory Coast)

48. The Bird with the Crystal Plumage – d. Dario Argento (Italy)

47. Norma Rae – d. Martin Ritt

46. The Discreet Charm of the Bourgeoisie – d. Luis Buñuel (France)

45. All The President’s Men – d. Alan J. Pakula

44. The Conversation – d. Francis Ford Coppola

43. Dog Day Afternoon – d. Sidney Lumet

42. The Man Who Fell to Earth – d. Nicolas Roeg (UK)

41. 1776 – d. Peter H. Hunt

40. Animal Housed. John Landis

39. Magnum Force – d. Ted Post

38. Barry Lyndon – d. Stanley Kubrick (UK / USA)

37. Last Tango in Paris – d. Bernardo Bertolucci (France / Italy)

36. Woodstock – d. Michael Wadleigh

35. Rocky – d. John G. Avildsen

34. The Outlaw Josey Wales – d. Clint Eastwood

33. The Seven-Ups – d. Phillip D’Antoni

32. Vanishing Point – d. Richard C. Sarafian

31. Alien – d. Ridley Scott

30. Close Encounters of the Third Kind – d. Stephen Spielberg

29. Jaws – d. Stephen Spielberg

28. Soylent Green – d. Richard Fleischer

27. The Song Remains the Same – d. Peter Clifton / Joe Massot

26. Mean Streets – d. Martin Scorsese

25. High Plains Drifter – d. Clint Eastwood

24. Murder on the Orient Express – d. Sidney Lumet

23. The Last Waltz – d. Martin Scorsese

22. The Stingd. George Roy Hill

21. Smokey and the Bandit – d. Hal Needham

20. Superman – d. Richard Donner

19. Nosferatu the Vampyre – d. Werner Herzog (West Ger. / France)

18. Macbeth – d. Roman Polanski (UK / USA)

17. Monty Python and the Holy Grail – d. Terry Gillian / Terry Jones (UK)

16. Star Wars – d. George Lucas

15. Blazing Saddles – d. Mel Brooks

14. Patton – d. Franklin J. Schaffner

13. Serpico – d. Sidney Lumet

12. Young Frankenstein – d. Mel Brooks

11. Scrooge – d. Ronald Neame (UK)

10. Apocalypse Now – d. Francis Ford Coppola

09. Taxi Driver – d. Martin Scorsese

08. The French Connection – d. William Friedkin

07. The Day of the Jackald. Fred Zinneman

06. Swept Away – d. Lina Wertmuller (Italy)

05. Day For Nightd. Francois Truffaut (France)

04. Jeremiah Johnson – d. Sydney Pollack

03. Let It Be – d. Michael Lindsay-Hogg (UK)

02. The Godfather Pt. II – d. Francis Ford Coppola

01. The Godfather – d. Francis Ford Coppola

Are any of your favorites here? Feel free to comment 🙂